Pray it Forward to Pay it Forward

I may be just jabbering here but a thought hit me hard and got me seriously thinking. But here goes anyway, lol.

I have been blessed in so many ways. There have been times when God just showed up even before I knew that I was in need. But He knew. Ain’t it so awesome how He does that?

There are times that I can be a blessing to someone else,therefore paying it forward. For example, God blesses me,however He chooses, and in return I bless someone else. Or someone does something for me, help me etc, I help someone else and they help someone else etc. But there are times when I have been blessed and do nothing, whether by being negligent, blind or not knowing how to pass it on or who to pass it on to. So, here is the thought that hit me: pray it forward to pay it forward. Pray and let God lead. Pray for who you can bless in some way. Could be anyone, a stranger even. If God sends you,go.

Better yet, why wait to be blessed to be a blessing? Pray for someone now to bless. That could indeed be the blessing in and of itself. What an awesome way to show the love of Jesus to the world?

Many years ago, I was sitting on the side of the road in the middle of the country, two toddlers with me. I ran out of gas and all I had on me was $5 and no gas jug. I sat there trying to figure out how I was gonna get gas when some guys stopped and asked if I needed help. I tried to give them my money but one guy went and got some gas for me while the other towed me to their driveway to get me off the side of the road. Then they put the gas in, without taking my money, told me to pay it forward as they just had done. I have done that. God is good.

Autumn

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Be You

I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. ~ PSalm 139:14 KJV

We are expected to be so much to everyone around us. The world expects to be who they want us to be, to fit their ‘perfect ‘ image. To live and believe as they do,even behave as they do.

Satan tells us that we are not good enough, pretty enough,skinny enough,etc. We are afraid that we won’t be accepted for who we truly are. Some of us have spent most of our lives trying to be the person who our parents, spouses,friends,society and even who we think we should be,that we forget who we truly are.

This cycle must stop. It has to stop. Forget what society, your parents, friends etc told you to be. Don’t be that peron you think you should be. Give satan the boot,send him packing like a scaredy cat. I love the vision of him running with his tail between his legs like a whooped puppy. I’m horrible, I know lol. As much trouble as he causes, thats really nice,considering. But anyway, you be you,you do you. Be authentically You. Be the person whom God created you to be. In Jesus Name, you are free to be yourself.

If you do not know or remember who and Whose you are, prayerfully read the Word. Ephesians is a good place to start. And pray. Talk to God. I promise He will show you. He has done the same for me. He even reminds me when I tend to forget. My God is a good,good Father.

Good or bad, the opinions of others does not and will never define you. Society,satan will lie to you. What others think,truly is none of our business. Only opinion that matters, is God’s.

Be YOU!! I love you as you are. You are beautifully and wonderfully made in Jesus.

Sincerely, Autumn

Living A Simple Life

Today’s generation is so busy. Always on the go. Both parents are working outside the home, having little time for their children much less for themselves. We’ve all put ourselves in a financial crisis. Loans, spending more than is brought home, living in chaos where we can’t find stuff and buy thise things we already have but can’t find; going out to eat, etc,etc. The list goes on forever. There are few situations where it cannot be helped. Single parenting, difficulty finding a decent paying job. We all have been or are there unless you were born into money.
But a simple life is always possible no matter where you are in life. The first step is to evaluate yourself, your family, life, belongings, finances, havits and spending. Take time to check yourself and see how you spend your time and money, your habits. Change what you can in babysteps. Write it all diwn in a notebook or journal.
Second step is to set your priorities and then order them from most important to least and work on one priority at a time. Just work on one at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself or you will fall back into your old ways.
Cut back on your spending

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Meal prep and menu planning

I will be honest here, I don’t always menu plan. I have gotten to a point I just work with what I have on hand. I will write down what I can do with what I do have and list what I need . For example, I have ground meat And want to do spaghetti. I will add spaghetti and pasta sauce to the list.
I also cook double when I cook and freeze half for another time. Perfect for a busy day or just don’t feel like cooking. Once a week I will cook 6-8 pounds of ground beef ( or deer, sometimes mixed) in the crockpot with 1 cup of water, stirring occasionally to break it up. I cook it on high for about 4 hours, let cool some and separate it into meals,such as spaghetti, sloppy joes, burritos, soup, casseroles. It saves alot of time and dishes. I do the same with chicken. You can make meatloaf, bake it and let it cool some. Then wrap it in foil and freeze. I cook hamburgers and hamburger steaks and freeze. It really is a lifesaver, time and money saver.
When going grocery shopping and bill paying, I do all at once, in one day. I pay the bills first and then I will grocery shop. It helps me from overspending. Before I go, I write down either on paper or in my phone what bills and how much.
I make a grocery list and calculate how much money I need for all of this plus gas. I get the money out of the bank, get my gas, pay my bills and go grocery shopping. Be sure to eat and have your coffee before leaving the house and bring your water bottle filled with water or tea. Doing this is truly blessing your family and yourself.
If you have alot of bills and need help or ideas how to manage your money, go to Dave Ramsey’s website or listen to him on YouTube.

Take time for yourself

We have got to take care of ourselves in order to take care of our loved ones. Even if it’s five minutes here and there. Drink plenty of water and take your vitamins. Eat well, get plenty of rest and exercise. Take 15 minutes to do a hobby, read, meditate or just nap. Whatever you enjoy doing. It is not selfish to take time for you. It is selfish not to. Because if you are worn out, burnt out etc, you cannot truly care for those around you. Got to make you a priority too.

Lower your standards some

You do not have to be perfect. Only God is perfect. We are human and therefore imperfect. It’s ok to be human. We all have things that we are ocd about. And if we let it, it will wear us out. Good enough is absolutely ok and freeing. I am not saying to completely let it go. I am saying that it does not have to be perfect, whatever ‘it ‘ maybe for you. Relax a little so it doesn’t cause unnecessary stress. You want to eliminate all stress in your life as possible.

Slow down

We are all in too much of a hurry in life and we miss the good things.
Get on a schedule, go to bed on time and get up early. Get up thirty minutes before your family does to start your day on the right foot. Prepare for the next day the night before. It will make your life so much simpler and happier. More peaceful. Teach your children to lay out their clothes for the next day and to have all their stuff together ready to go before going to bed.

Set your priorities and live them. Say no when needed. Work if you want to, if you don’t then, cut your spending, be content with what you have and quit your job. If you have young children, they wont be under your wing forever. And you will have regrets. They don’t need the finest things or alot of stuff. They need you. Maybe, you can start your own kind of business at home if you want. That way you are always available for your family, able to bless your family with a clean home and a cooked meal and laundry caught up lol. And still bring in a little extra cash. It is totally up to you. It is your life. Doing these things will help you lead a simpler life no matter what.
So what are your top priorities in life?

Sincerely, Autumn

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Learning to Forgive

What does it mean to forgive? According to the dictionary, Forgiveness is an action or process of forgiving or being forgiven. I have discovered that forgiving someone,including myself, is both an action and a process. To forgive means to wipe the slate clean,to pardon,to cancel a debt, to restore. I love the last,to restore. That’s what Jesus does, He restores us. He restored the woman at the well, He restored Mary Magdalene. He restores all who come to Him in repentance. To me, thats a beautiful and powerful thing….. to be restored.

Forgiveness is not granted because a person(s) deserves to be forgiven. Instead, it is an act of love,mercy and grace. Think about it, if God only forgave us when we deserved it, we would be in a shipload of trouble. We would never be forgiven. I used to love the song Unforgiven by Metallica. I took that song to describe myself. But I have come to realize how wrong I was. I was unforgiven because I didn’t forgive myself. We can’t be forgiven by God until we forgive others and ourselves. It’s even harder to forgive ourselves. Even when we haven’t done anything wrong, we tend to still hold things against ourselves. We are our own worst enemies. And satan wants us to stay that way, because it drives a wedge in all of our relationships, even with God. We lose blessings. He wants us to dwell on the past, on our hurts ,etc. It’s time we stop giving the evil one weapons to use against us.

When we forgive a trespasser our actions towards that person may change and of course it t doesn’t mean that we will put ourselves back into a harmful situation ( ps,if you are in an abusive relationship, get out and don’t go back into it,no matter what) or accept or approve of one’s continued wrong behavior. It simply means that we release them from the wrong they commited against us. We forgive because God forgave us. Ephesians 4:32

What does God say about forgiveness?

• We forgive because we have been forgiven by God. Ephesians 4:32

• We forgive in obedience to God. Matthew 6:14-15;Romans 12:18

• We forgive others to gain control of our lives from hurt emotions. Genesis 4:1-8

• We forgive so we won’t become bitter and defile those around us. Hebrews 12:14-15

Though,we are to forgive others and ourselves, it does not mean that it will always be easy. It won’t. We are human and our flesh is weak. This is where the process of forgiving comes in. Forgiveness is a process, especially when it comes to abuse,a shattered heart,etc. Forgiving others and yourself is the beginning of the healing process.

When you hold back forgiveness, ask yourself: who are you hurting? Are you hurting them in any way? Depending on tbe situation, most likely not. There are occasions an honest mistake was made,then both parties will be hurt.Other than that, you are only hurting yourself. That person(s) have not missed any sleep nor given any thought of you at all.

So,who is really being hurt? YOU!! And the ones closest to you. Unforgiveness turns into bitterness, anger,hatred and even murderous. You say,Autumn, how do you know all this? Have you been hurt the way I have? You don’t understand. I have been there, I have been through it all just as most if not all people on this planet have. And you know what? Ain’t none of us have been through what Jesus went through and He forgave us. Hate is a strong word and is against God. Just thinking hateful things makes you guilty of murder in God’s eyes. Matthew 5:22; 1John 3:15. Unforgiveness will eat you alive from the inside and out. I understand completely. Made me a person I hated. Couldn’t stand to even look at myself in the mirror; until I forgave myself and the other person(s).

You must,absolutely,must forgive yourself. It is the same as forgiving others.

By forgiving others and yourself,does that mean that they will get away scott free? No,not necessarily. But it is God’s place to give the consequences, not ours. If we lash out in anyway, it makes us guilty as well. We are responsible for our own actions and reactions. Not theirs or anyone elses but our own. We can’t blame no one else, our parents,upbringing,etc. No one but ourselves for our own actions and reactions.

Forgive them and forgive you. By forgiving, you are freeing yourself to be healed and regaining control of your own life. Sometimes, you have to forgive repeatedly, daily even. The healing will come even before you realize it. But remember, you have to forgive yourself too. It is so much harder to forgive ourselves because we hold ourselves to a higher standard. We expect more of ourselves than others. I know how hard it can be. I have literally beat myself up so bad until I was lower than an ant and completely shattered. That is no place for a child of God to be.

Let it go,do not dwell on it.Satan has a way of bringing up the past, little remembrances, even the teeniest tiniest thing to remind you, to fuel unforgiveness and bitterness into our hearts. He wants to bring us down and keep us down. Its time for God’s children to stop giving satan weapons to use against us. Forgive it again, and immediately give it to God. Do not dwell on it, don’t give it a second thought. Once you do, you will free-fall down that horrible path again. I’ve done that too and it’s even harder to get back up.

Let God fight for you. Give it all to Him, forgive and stand out of the way. It’s not easy going against our flesh but we must. With God, All things are possible. It is so freeing to forgive.

God forgave us of so much,we can forgive others and ourselves. We can.

From Whom Much Is Forgiven,

Autumn Hamblin

I love you all

It’s so easy to……

It’s so easy to get lost in everyday mundane things of life. So much so that even God becomes mundane, a chore that we must do or a chore that we forget to do. I can’t count how many times I have done this,even for long periods of time. It is a sign that I have become mechanical or just downright lazy. Or,knowing me, I allowed myself to get over my head behind on things,not being intentional. That last one,yep,it’s me to a ‘t’. I get out of habit and I am thrown for a loop. Normally, I start my day off with coffee with God before I do anything else. Lately,I’ve been doing everything else and never getting around to God. Excuse? NOPE!! It’s the way I roll. If I don’t keep first things first,or if something changes,I’m knocked for a loop,I lose my balance and it’s hard getting back up but I always do. Like keeping house, I get on a system that works, I’m on a roll and then bam! I find myself in one big frustrating mess. That’s where I am at right now.
Last night, I sat down to read my bible, I was reading in Genesis,chapter 17 verse 1 got my attention and I had to sleep on that verse,hit me that hard. It says:
When Abram was 99 years old, the Lord appeared to him,saying,”I am God Almighty. Live in My Presence and be blameless.~ Genesis 17:1 HCSB
Now, I have read this a zillion times in different versions over the years and it never jumped out at me like that. I kept hearing a question in my heart, ” how can I live in Him if He is on a back burner or under mountains of laundry? I can’t. He should be my first and top priority above all things,chores and people,including myself. I must be intentional with Him. For me, everyone is different, I must spend time with Him first thing in the morning, give myself food to feed on thru the day. It’s also nice to have lunch time with Him and right before bed but sometimes its just nuggets thru the day. Them nuggets can go a long way for me. It helps me be who He wants me to be. A simple Jesus girl💖

Broken Back Together

My life and testimony summarized.

My father was killed in a motorcycle wreck when my mother was 4 months pregnant with me.

She moved on,remarried to an abusive man who,two weeks after they were married, killed a child and landed in prison. She moved on again and married my step dad sometime later when I was 3. He wasn’t any better but they are still married today. They had 2 kids together. My baby brother and sister.

My step dad was an alcoholic, though he will never admit it. Which in turn mama became the same. Daddy was abusive in every way possible. We moved constantly,never having a home. Mama would sleep with daddy’s friends,mostly for money, while daddy watched. First real abuse that I can remember, physically, was when I was 7 or 8 in Myrtle,Ms. I wouldnt let my brother play with a toy and he went and told mama that I had hit him. Next thing I know I am being forced to lay down in the living room floor,and our parents gave my siblings, who were 3 and 4, a baseball bat each and told them to hit me as hard as possible, several times while our parents stood and laughed at me. I felt in my heart,I was about to die. I knew 100% that I was unloved and unwanted. How can a mother allow her children to be harmed in any way much less laugh about it? Abuse went on,in different ways,as I got older the worse it was. At about age 9, one of daddys friends started molesting me and eventually went all the way as I got closer to my teens. It ended when my parents sold me to my rapist,yet another ‘friend’ when I turned 15. I made the mistake of telling a teacher. I was called a liar by the entire town including my parents.

I had been suicidal since the age of 13. My parents were out partying and I was babysitting my siblings. We had gone to bed and I laid there crying. I spent all of my teen years crying myself to sleep. At that moment, I felt I couldn’t take it anymore, why stay around when no one loved you nor wanted you? So,I got up and went to grab the sharpest knife and just put it to my wrist and started cutting when I heard a voice out of nowhere call my name. I looked,scared that I was in for a beating, no one was there. So I went back to what I was doing, I heard my name again. This time, I thought it was my birth father,whom I talked and cried to every night. I put the knife back after cleaning the blood off of it and went to bed,crying. I lived yet another day. It goes on and on.

When I was 17, I received a plane ticket and an invitation to go to Washington for 2 weeks. Where I met my big brother for the first time. My father had given all parental rights to my grandmother, his mother due to abuse and neglect from our mother. That first week,I met Jesus for the first time. He saved me and my life. Before I met Him, I was planning my death on my 18th birthday.

I was so broken,shattered in tiny little pieces. I hated myself, I saw myself the way my mother would tell me I am: stupid,ugly,her slave,etc. I was the unlovable, unforgivable black sheep,extra baggage she had to carry around. It took me years to accept Jesus’s view of me and His love. Well into my 30s. Im 39 now. Even I accepted Jesus when I was 17, I couldn’t accept that He loved me. My thinking was if my mama couldn’t love me,how could He? I was so wrong,terribly wrong.

Jesus loves you as you are. Because He loves you, He won’t let you stay where you are.

This is a summary of my life and what God has done for me. He can and will rescue you as He has done for me.

Ms. Misunderstood

10 Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
11 Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.

13 She finds wool and flax
and busily spins it.
14 She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.


14 She is like a merchant’s ship,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household
and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.

16 She goes to inspect a field and buys it;
with her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She is energetic and strong,
a hard worker.
18 She makes sure her dealings are profitable;
her lamp burns late into the night.

19 Her hands are busy spinning thread,
her fingers twisting fiber.
20 She extends a helping hand to the poor
and opens her arms to the needy.
21 She has no fear of winter for her household,
for everyone has warm clothes.

 

22 She makes her own bedspreads.
She dresses in fine linen and purple gowns.
23 Her husband is well known at the city gates,
where he sits with the other civic leaders.
24 She makes belted linen garments
and sashes to sell to the merchants.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
26 When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
27 She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.


26 When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
27 She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.

28 Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her:
29 “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!”

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
31 Reward her for all she has done.
Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.

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Proverbs 31:10-31 NLT

I think this is one of the most sincerely misunderstood scripture in the Bible. And I can understand that as I did when I read it for the very first time.

First off, I have heard it said that she ( Proverbs 31 woman) doesn’t exist but I beg to differ. Yes, the mother was giving a description, true. But as I read and studied, the mother didn’t create her. She also was a Proverbs 31 woman. Sarah was,Esther was, so was Mary the mother of Jesus and so forth.

A Proverbs 31 woman is a woman like you and me. She has strong faith and she does what needs to be done to care for her family and home. She searches for good quality clothing, food and other needs. She wasn’t lazy all day,every day. She did what she loved and also took care of herself and she was frugal. But was she perfect? Did she always have a good day? Did she enjoy the mundane jobs? No to all of them. She had her bad days,struggles and maybe even a few moments of doubt. Just like us,she’s human.

You don’t have to grow a garden or sew your own clothes. Nor cook from scratch etc or that you can’t have a career. Being a Proverbs 31 woman is doing the best you can to take care of your family and home,doing what it takes. Leaning on God when you just don’t have the energy or feel like doing anything.

It is a form of worshipping our God and it is a ministry to those around us,especially the younger ladies.

~Autumn