Sometimes I Just Gotta

Sometimes I just gotta call it a day. Early. Just to play or pamper or play. And sometimes I just gotta go in time out like I’m two years old lol. Just gotta do what it takes to take care of myself so that I can take care of others. It’s not a selfish thing. God said to love your neighbors as yourself. I gotta love myself in order to love God and my neighbors. Just a thought I thought I would share. It seems harder to love ourselves, especially us women. We tend to do for everyone but ourselves and we run dry. Let’s stop the cycle. Even if it’s a few minutes, do it, whatever you need to recharge and show yourself some love. It also teaches our children to love themselves also.

Love, Autumn

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Brothers and Sisters Keeper

Ever made a bad decision in life that brought you down to your lowest? Haven’t we all? Have you ever felt judged by others for doing so? Or have judged others( intentionally and unintentionally)? How did it make you feel? I don’t know about you, it’s no fun. It makes me feel even worse. We all have our lessons to learn. We are human, we will make mistakes and bad choices. But it is what we do with them that matters. That will be what tells what is in our hearts. But some of us are weak, that doesn’t make us bad. It just means we need some help, some guidance, love,mercy and grace. Even those who are stronger needs that. God knows His children, through and through and if we let Him, He will give us the strength when we are weak. Sometimes, He sends others into our lives to strengthen us, to help guide us. There is no mistake so great that God can’t forgive. When He forgives, He truly forgives. He doesn’t remind you. He is not sitting on His throne judging you, telling the angels what you have done or what others ( including the media) say you have done.
So, how do we treat others? Lord knows I have been guilty and have repented.God pointed these things out in me and I didn’t like what I saw. Everyone is human,we all fall short.(Romans 3:23) And when we point out what others have done, be it you,me, our President, actors/actresses, musicians etc,even our Pastors, when we point out their wrongs, we make ourselves look bad and sound bad. It shows we have no self respect or control. The tongue is a deadly weapon. For one, it is none of our business whatsoever, what these people do. It is absolutely none of my business what my neighbors do. I am responsible for my own actions. That being said, we are our brother’s/ sisters keeper. It is our business to build them up. We are all brothers and sisters, not just blood. To edify each other, not an alarm bell to their mistakes or sins etc. I would not want that done to me. It is hurtful to yourself, me and everyone around you,including those who read the posts or comments on social media. This country needs to come together as a whole and take care of each other as a family.
Here’s something else for us tto be chewing on, if you are a soldier ( whether it be marine, army,navy,air force etc,all have the same goal in the end) and you have spent your life fighting for this country, how would it feel to you to finally come home,barely making it alive, to find your country fighting against each other and tearing each other down? It would make me feel like I have wasted my time putting my life at risk for nothing. I will say it, our soldiers do not go overseas just for some land. If that were the case, they would get them some land of their own and say the heck with it. No, its for us, so we can have our freedom. Their families are sacrificing the same. There’s something to think about.
And y’all, we can’t believe everything that the social media of any form says about another, or our government, President or anyone else. Even the most reliable sources can be mistaken. My rule of thumb, if i wasnt there, i have no clue, its none of my business unless they tell me. It doesn’t matter to me what this singer,or actor has done. It does matter some what decisions the President makes when it affects us, but if I disagree, complaining, or tearing him down, being a drama queen ain’t gonna solve anything. But prayer will. It is our jib to lray for our President and soldiers and everyone around us. God is the Solution. And that I will keep in mind when the flesh starts to creep up, Look in the mirror.
And by the way, do please support our soldiers, whether it be in prayer, however. They may not admit it, they need us. They need our love,prayers and support. Once a soldier always a soldier.

Love,Autumn

Lessons from the Potter

Sometimes you just have to let go and let God. Well, that’s not true. All the time,not sometimes. Things in life just happens, it happens for a reason. I am not a believer in coincidences. Whether big or small, there is a lesson for us to take away and learn. In happy times and in hard and painful times. Learn from it. Listen to the message and let it go. Give it to God and move on. Do not dwell, do away with the wishes, woulda ,coulda and shoulda. We can’t change what has been but we can change what will be. Let these lessons make you a better you,a stronger you and most importantly, strengthen your relationship with God and those around you. Change what you can and leave the rest in God’s capable Hands. After all, He is the Potter,we are the clay. Let Him mold you.

Sincerely, Autumn

You are loved

Pray it Forward to Pay it Forward

I may be just jabbering here but a thought hit me hard and got me seriously thinking. But here goes anyway, lol.

I have been blessed in so many ways. There have been times when God just showed up even before I knew that I was in need. But He knew. Ain’t it so awesome how He does that?

There are times that I can be a blessing to someone else,therefore paying it forward. For example, God blesses me,however He chooses, and in return I bless someone else. Or someone does something for me, help me etc, I help someone else and they help someone else etc. But there are times when I have been blessed and do nothing, whether by being negligent, blind or not knowing how to pass it on or who to pass it on to. So, here is the thought that hit me: pray it forward to pay it forward. Pray and let God lead. Pray for who you can bless in some way. Could be anyone, a stranger even. If God sends you,go.

Better yet, why wait to be blessed to be a blessing? Pray for someone now to bless. That could indeed be the blessing in and of itself. What an awesome way to show the love of Jesus to the world?

Many years ago, I was sitting on the side of the road in the middle of the country, two toddlers with me. I ran out of gas and all I had on me was $5 and no gas jug. I sat there trying to figure out how I was gonna get gas when some guys stopped and asked if I needed help. I tried to give them my money but one guy went and got some gas for me while the other towed me to their driveway to get me off the side of the road. Then they put the gas in, without taking my money, told me to pay it forward as they just had done. I have done that. God is good.

Autumn

Be You

I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. ~ PSalm 139:14 KJV

We are expected to be so much to everyone around us. The world expects to be who they want us to be, to fit their ‘perfect ‘ image. To live and believe as they do,even behave as they do.

Satan tells us that we are not good enough, pretty enough,skinny enough,etc. We are afraid that we won’t be accepted for who we truly are. Some of us have spent most of our lives trying to be the person who our parents, spouses,friends,society and even who we think we should be,that we forget who we truly are.

This cycle must stop. It has to stop. Forget what society, your parents, friends etc told you to be. Don’t be that peron you think you should be. Give satan the boot,send him packing like a scaredy cat. I love the vision of him running with his tail between his legs like a whooped puppy. I’m horrible, I know lol. As much trouble as he causes, thats really nice,considering. But anyway, you be you,you do you. Be authentically You. Be the person whom God created you to be. In Jesus Name, you are free to be yourself.

If you do not know or remember who and Whose you are, prayerfully read the Word. Ephesians is a good place to start. And pray. Talk to God. I promise He will show you. He has done the same for me. He even reminds me when I tend to forget. My God is a good,good Father.

Good or bad, the opinions of others does not and will never define you. Society,satan will lie to you. What others think,truly is none of our business. Only opinion that matters, is God’s.

Be YOU!! I love you as you are. You are beautifully and wonderfully made in Jesus.

Sincerely, Autumn

Living A Simple Life

Today’s generation is so busy. Always on the go. Both parents are working outside the home, having little time for their children much less for themselves. We’ve all put ourselves in a financial crisis. Loans, spending more than is brought home, living in chaos where we can’t find stuff and buy thise things we already have but can’t find; going out to eat, etc,etc. The list goes on forever. There are few situations where it cannot be helped. Single parenting, difficulty finding a decent paying job. We all have been or are there unless you were born into money.
But a simple life is always possible no matter where you are in life. The first step is to evaluate yourself, your family, life, belongings, finances, havits and spending. Take time to check yourself and see how you spend your time and money, your habits. Change what you can in babysteps. Write it all diwn in a notebook or journal.
Second step is to set your priorities and then order them from most important to least and work on one priority at a time. Just work on one at a time. Don’t overwhelm yourself or you will fall back into your old ways.
Cut back on your spending

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Meal prep and menu planning

I will be honest here, I don’t always menu plan. I have gotten to a point I just work with what I have on hand. I will write down what I can do with what I do have and list what I need . For example, I have ground meat And want to do spaghetti. I will add spaghetti and pasta sauce to the list.
I also cook double when I cook and freeze half for another time. Perfect for a busy day or just don’t feel like cooking. Once a week I will cook 6-8 pounds of ground beef ( or deer, sometimes mixed) in the crockpot with 1 cup of water, stirring occasionally to break it up. I cook it on high for about 4 hours, let cool some and separate it into meals,such as spaghetti, sloppy joes, burritos, soup, casseroles. It saves alot of time and dishes. I do the same with chicken. You can make meatloaf, bake it and let it cool some. Then wrap it in foil and freeze. I cook hamburgers and hamburger steaks and freeze. It really is a lifesaver, time and money saver.
When going grocery shopping and bill paying, I do all at once, in one day. I pay the bills first and then I will grocery shop. It helps me from overspending. Before I go, I write down either on paper or in my phone what bills and how much.
I make a grocery list and calculate how much money I need for all of this plus gas. I get the money out of the bank, get my gas, pay my bills and go grocery shopping. Be sure to eat and have your coffee before leaving the house and bring your water bottle filled with water or tea. Doing this is truly blessing your family and yourself.
If you have alot of bills and need help or ideas how to manage your money, go to Dave Ramsey’s website or listen to him on YouTube.

Take time for yourself

We have got to take care of ourselves in order to take care of our loved ones. Even if it’s five minutes here and there. Drink plenty of water and take your vitamins. Eat well, get plenty of rest and exercise. Take 15 minutes to do a hobby, read, meditate or just nap. Whatever you enjoy doing. It is not selfish to take time for you. It is selfish not to. Because if you are worn out, burnt out etc, you cannot truly care for those around you. Got to make you a priority too.

Lower your standards some

You do not have to be perfect. Only God is perfect. We are human and therefore imperfect. It’s ok to be human. We all have things that we are ocd about. And if we let it, it will wear us out. Good enough is absolutely ok and freeing. I am not saying to completely let it go. I am saying that it does not have to be perfect, whatever ‘it ‘ maybe for you. Relax a little so it doesn’t cause unnecessary stress. You want to eliminate all stress in your life as possible.

Slow down

We are all in too much of a hurry in life and we miss the good things.
Get on a schedule, go to bed on time and get up early. Get up thirty minutes before your family does to start your day on the right foot. Prepare for the next day the night before. It will make your life so much simpler and happier. More peaceful. Teach your children to lay out their clothes for the next day and to have all their stuff together ready to go before going to bed.

Set your priorities and live them. Say no when needed. Work if you want to, if you don’t then, cut your spending, be content with what you have and quit your job. If you have young children, they wont be under your wing forever. And you will have regrets. They don’t need the finest things or alot of stuff. They need you. Maybe, you can start your own kind of business at home if you want. That way you are always available for your family, able to bless your family with a clean home and a cooked meal and laundry caught up lol. And still bring in a little extra cash. It is totally up to you. It is your life. Doing these things will help you lead a simpler life no matter what.
So what are your top priorities in life?

Sincerely, Autumn

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Learning to Forgive

What does it mean to forgive? According to the dictionary, Forgiveness is an action or process of forgiving or being forgiven. I have discovered that forgiving someone,including myself, is both an action and a process. To forgive means to wipe the slate clean,to pardon,to cancel a debt, to restore. I love the last,to restore. That’s what Jesus does, He restores us. He restored the woman at the well, He restored Mary Magdalene. He restores all who come to Him in repentance. To me, thats a beautiful and powerful thing….. to be restored.

Forgiveness is not granted because a person(s) deserves to be forgiven. Instead, it is an act of love,mercy and grace. Think about it, if God only forgave us when we deserved it, we would be in a shipload of trouble. We would never be forgiven. I used to love the song Unforgiven by Metallica. I took that song to describe myself. But I have come to realize how wrong I was. I was unforgiven because I didn’t forgive myself. We can’t be forgiven by God until we forgive others and ourselves. It’s even harder to forgive ourselves. Even when we haven’t done anything wrong, we tend to still hold things against ourselves. We are our own worst enemies. And satan wants us to stay that way, because it drives a wedge in all of our relationships, even with God. We lose blessings. He wants us to dwell on the past, on our hurts ,etc. It’s time we stop giving the evil one weapons to use against us.

When we forgive a trespasser our actions towards that person may change and of course it t doesn’t mean that we will put ourselves back into a harmful situation ( ps,if you are in an abusive relationship, get out and don’t go back into it,no matter what) or accept or approve of one’s continued wrong behavior. It simply means that we release them from the wrong they commited against us. We forgive because God forgave us. Ephesians 4:32

What does God say about forgiveness?

• We forgive because we have been forgiven by God. Ephesians 4:32

• We forgive in obedience to God. Matthew 6:14-15;Romans 12:18

• We forgive others to gain control of our lives from hurt emotions. Genesis 4:1-8

• We forgive so we won’t become bitter and defile those around us. Hebrews 12:14-15

Though,we are to forgive others and ourselves, it does not mean that it will always be easy. It won’t. We are human and our flesh is weak. This is where the process of forgiving comes in. Forgiveness is a process, especially when it comes to abuse,a shattered heart,etc. Forgiving others and yourself is the beginning of the healing process.

When you hold back forgiveness, ask yourself: who are you hurting? Are you hurting them in any way? Depending on tbe situation, most likely not. There are occasions an honest mistake was made,then both parties will be hurt.Other than that, you are only hurting yourself. That person(s) have not missed any sleep nor given any thought of you at all.

So,who is really being hurt? YOU!! And the ones closest to you. Unforgiveness turns into bitterness, anger,hatred and even murderous. You say,Autumn, how do you know all this? Have you been hurt the way I have? You don’t understand. I have been there, I have been through it all just as most if not all people on this planet have. And you know what? Ain’t none of us have been through what Jesus went through and He forgave us. Hate is a strong word and is against God. Just thinking hateful things makes you guilty of murder in God’s eyes. Matthew 5:22; 1John 3:15. Unforgiveness will eat you alive from the inside and out. I understand completely. Made me a person I hated. Couldn’t stand to even look at myself in the mirror; until I forgave myself and the other person(s).

You must,absolutely,must forgive yourself. It is the same as forgiving others.

By forgiving others and yourself,does that mean that they will get away scott free? No,not necessarily. But it is God’s place to give the consequences, not ours. If we lash out in anyway, it makes us guilty as well. We are responsible for our own actions and reactions. Not theirs or anyone elses but our own. We can’t blame no one else, our parents,upbringing,etc. No one but ourselves for our own actions and reactions.

Forgive them and forgive you. By forgiving, you are freeing yourself to be healed and regaining control of your own life. Sometimes, you have to forgive repeatedly, daily even. The healing will come even before you realize it. But remember, you have to forgive yourself too. It is so much harder to forgive ourselves because we hold ourselves to a higher standard. We expect more of ourselves than others. I know how hard it can be. I have literally beat myself up so bad until I was lower than an ant and completely shattered. That is no place for a child of God to be.

Let it go,do not dwell on it.Satan has a way of bringing up the past, little remembrances, even the teeniest tiniest thing to remind you, to fuel unforgiveness and bitterness into our hearts. He wants to bring us down and keep us down. Its time for God’s children to stop giving satan weapons to use against us. Forgive it again, and immediately give it to God. Do not dwell on it, don’t give it a second thought. Once you do, you will free-fall down that horrible path again. I’ve done that too and it’s even harder to get back up.

Let God fight for you. Give it all to Him, forgive and stand out of the way. It’s not easy going against our flesh but we must. With God, All things are possible. It is so freeing to forgive.

God forgave us of so much,we can forgive others and ourselves. We can.

From Whom Much Is Forgiven,

Autumn Hamblin

I love you all